Perceptional Process

          We all had an experience with the perceptional process once in our lives. We may have came across it and didn't even know we use the perceptional process against someone. For example, I had a experience with a polygamous women yesterday. My roommate and i went to the bank to open up an account. When we walked in the bank it was packed and there was no where to sit. So as my roommate and i was standing , we looked over and there was an empty seat and it seemed like it was overlooked ; however, there was a polygamous women sitting right next to the empty seat. My roommate and I were looking at each other and started laughing. We were laughing because we were just talking about polygamy and we was amazed by her. We was also told that they hated black people, so we wasn't going to sit by her. We made an assumption on her that if we sit by her, she will move, give us a dirty look, or get mad and I didn't want to get embarrassed like that. That was the very first time i seen a polygamous in my life. So as we were standing there, the polygamous women approached me and said,"You can sit here." So I walked over there and sat by the women.

I was scared, embarrassed, and disappointed. I was embarrassed because I couldn't believe that I judge her based off a stereotype or something I heard. I was disappointed because if anyone knows how it feel to be judge it would be me. I never try to come off as a judgemental person and the first thing I did was judge her. I thought it would better to protect my feeling and not be put to shame. I didn't think twice about how I made her feel or even everyone in the room because we weren't the only one standing. The woman was talkative, nice, and friendly. This experience was a life time lesson to not always put assumptions on another individual by the way they looked, what I heard about them, there outward appearance, or a stereotype. We all have been judge,accused, talked about, over looked, and misunderstood and we should be more understanding. I learned to look at things in a different way and stop judging people by the way they look or come off because you don't know there story.

I would like to start off by saying I really love my Interpersonal communication class. I have learned so much in this class and it seems like every topic we talked about is based off my life. I come from a family where we didn't express ourselves, because I didn't know how and we was never thought. So,  everyone walked about holding things i and were taught that we are not like everyone else. I am a Christian and was taught to cover everything up, you can be perfect, and we can do anything. Now I can see why there is so many hurt, sad, and depressed people in the church and committing suicide.

In my interpersonal communication class I'm learning how to open up and it is really exciting. I recent figured out that I really had a issue and that was when I got into a relationship, and it was all bad. I didn't know how to talk to him, open up, I always put expectations on him, and I was so mean. I was blind to my self. I had a lot of secrets that was hidden and once I let it out it was a big relief. I was ashamed and I didn't want others to look at me different or judge because I was scared of there reaction. Most all I'm learning to be me and don't let what others think about me effected who I am

Hi my name is Janeisha Lee. This is my first year in college and I'm very excited about it. This is my first year using blogger and this will be my first post. I really Enjoy my interpersonal communication class today.